The Truth About Getting “Busy”
You know, you might call me an A-hole for writing this.
And for what it’s worth, I really don’t care (because I’m pretty and my president is black…)
But when you say that you are “too busy” to do something, do you realize that you, yourself, are lying. Yes! Do not shake your head. You are a balding, toothless liar, and if you are ALWAYS saying that you are too busy to do something, you will discover a loss of trust, friendships, and networking opportunities. And when you’re young or trying to do big things with your life, that’s practically suicide.
I have noticed, that when people say that they are too busy they really mean:
- I do not want to do that.
- I waited until the last minute to think about it, and now I really can’t do it.
- I’m not willing to give this any effort.
- I do not have time management skills. I get away with procrastination.
- My life isn’t going the way I want it to, so I’m not interested in anything.
The differences between a person who “says” that they are busy and a busy person are:
- A busy person makes times. If they miss a deadline, the are quick to follow up and will provide progress reports (even if its unneccessary, the guilt will keep a busy person in contact).
- A busy person actually does a lot of work in addition to the task they doing. Typically “Too Busy People” aren’t doing that much. There is a noticeable amount of time dedicated to lounging around, socializing, and avoiding work.
- A busy person likes keeping busy. Ever notice how legitimately busy people don’t complain about fun things? You’ll never hear them complain intensely about having to go to a party, or having to play SODUKU, or having to participate in a hobby…. People who are too busy will talk your ear off about all of these things as if they didn’t know they had a choice to not do any of it.
- People who are “too busy” have a really bad tendency to show that they are not busy by either admitting their laziness at a later date, or making it publicly known that they are bored or not doing anything via thefacebook and Twitter. The bastards.
The main difference between the two is:
P A S S I O N
Passionate people don’t stand you up or blow you off.
Passionate people don’t make promises that they can’t keep.
A passionate person is respectful, considerate, and honest (like a Catholic on Ash Wednesday).
So before you agree to help someone, take on a project, or make social plans, DON”T BE A POSER. Ask yourself, “Am I really going to do this” and then answer accordingly.